The guest on the blog today got back to me yesterday and we got the feature story underway. Getting to know him was nothing short of exciting. Ah, that’s the moment I remembered why it is that I do this and I sometimes lose sleep over it. Sometimes I get guests who are free-spirited, who I think trust me way more than they should (Thank you so much!) and who agree to do this wholeheartedly.
Interacting with all these people takes me (and I hope you too) to their world, a whole new world. And I love how we do it here because when you work in “print” media, there’s all these rules on how you need to do a profile story. The writer tells the story. The writer paraphrases what the guest says. You put one exclamation mark because putting three will not drive the point home anymore than the former would.
You don’t use a lot of emotive language. You don’t…you don’t… But on here, I like to let the guests tell their stories. And I feel that it’s more real, genuine, and authentic that way. Although my job is to edit how the story turns out, there are some I really try with every fibre of my being not to touch. Because the way the guest told the story is exactly how I want it to be read. Today’s story is one of those. I really had to keep pinching and preventing myself from playing around with it.
For this piece, I prefer not to make any introduction as to who Chris Hart is. He does it himself, and he does it quite well. Way better than I ever could. Anything you would want to know I think he’s said it. If I make a brief introduction on him, I think it will be quite an injustice, to him, to the blog, and to you. So here’s a little bit about Chris Hart.
Chris Hart (Dr Christopher Geoffrey Hart BA BSc FRSC MIOSH MBPsS to be formal!)
Psychologist, specialising in relationships of all types (dating, spouses, family etc) and social skills (especially within work groups and for managers). I also still do a little management consultancy (see below) and (don’t laugh) a little computer programming (php / mySQL mostly)!
People tend to call what I do ‘counselling,’ and there is a large element of that in my approach, but I tend to think of it more as coaching – helping people to develop their skills to deal with their issues – or to improve their performance.
What’s your background? Born and bred in Kenya?
Nope! Born and bred on a farm in the UK (in fact I still own a small farm there). I first trained as an industrial chemist and worked for a multinational in the chemical industry (hence the Fellowship of the Royal Society of Chemistry). Towards the end of that period I began to realise that my values and that of my employers were beginning to diverge, and also that I was getting more and more interested in why people behaved as they did, like why they had accidents or were under-motivated. All of which led to my going back to college to study Psychology. During this period I also worked as a management consultant to fund my studies – travelling and working all over the world – and it was that which brought me to Kenya.
Initially, in addition to the management consultancy, I worked with trauma victims, people recovering from serious illnesses and with adults with educational difficulties (failed at school), and only gradually began to specialise in relationships and social skills. This is partly because I studied a psychological approach called Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for use with the trauma and illness victims – and this approach is also highly effective in relationship and social skill issues, especially when combined with a little Freudian psychodynamics, which is what I do. Read more The Unwritten With: CHRIS HART – ALL WOMEN ARE DEMANDING!